My brother-in-law opened the bottom drawer of my sister's bureau and lifted out a tissue wrapped package.“This," he said, “is not a piece of paper. This is lingerie." He discarded the tissue and handed me the lingerie.我的妹夫从我妹妹书桌最底下的抽屉里取出了一个用纸片包裹的小包袱。“这可不是一张纸片，”他说，“这是件女式内衣。他打开包袱，把它拿过来递给我。It was exqrusite; silk, handmade and trimmed with a cobweb of lace. The price tag with an astronomical figure on it was still attached. "Jan bought this the first time we went to New York at least 8 0r 9 years ago.
She never wore it. She was saving it for a special occasion. Well, I guess this is the occasion." He took the lingerie from me and put it on the bed with the other clothes we were taking to the mortician.His hands lingered on the sofi material for a moment, then he slammed the drawer shut and tumed to me "Don't ever save anything for a special occasion. Every day you're alive is a special occasion."
I remembered those words through the funeral and the days that followed when I helped him and my niece attend to all the sad chores that follow an unexpected death. I thought about them on the plane returning to Californiafrom the Midwestern town where my sister's family lives. I thought about all the things that she hadn't seen or heard or done. I thought about the things that she had done without realizing that they were special.
在我帮着他和我的侄女处理因这场意外死亡而接踵而至的充满着悲伤琐事的葬礼期间，我一直在想着这句话。在从我妹妹居住的这个中西部地区的小镇飞往加利福尼亚的飞机上，我也在想着这句话。我想到那些她从没听过、见过或做过的事，我也想到那些她经历过但却没有意识到其独特性的事。I'm still thinking about his words, and they've changed my life. I'm reading more and dusting less. I'm sitting on the deck and admiring the view without fussing about the weeds in the garden. I'm spending more time with my family and friends and less time in comnuttee meetings. Whenever possible, life should be a pattem of experience to savor, not endure. I'm trying to recognize these moments now and cherish them.到现在我还思考着他的话，它们甚至改变了我的一生。我开始读更多的东西，少受一点蒙蔽。我学会坐在地面上欣赏风景而不去担心花园里的杂草。我努力花更多的时间和家人待在一起而不是去开无聊的会议。不管何时，生活应该是享受而不是忍受。我已开始去认识并珍惜这些美妙的时刻。I'm not "saving" anything; we use our good cluna a-nd crystal for every special event-such as losing a pound, getting the sink unstopped, the first camellia blossom. I wear my good blazer to the market ifl feel like it. My theory is ifl look prosperous, I can shell out $28.49 for one small bag of groceries without wincing. I'm not saving my good perfu.me for special parties; clerks in hardware stores and tellers in banks have noses that function as well as my party-going friends.我不再珍藏任何东西。我会在各种小事情上使用上好的瓷器与水晶器，比如庆祝减掉一磅体重，打通厨房堵塞的排污槽，盛放初开的茶花。如果我喜欢，我会在逛市场时穿上我漂亮的冲锋衣。我的理论是，如果我看上去够有钱，我会毫不畏缩地花上28.49美元去买一小袋食品与杂货。我再也不会珍藏着我的名贵香水去期待一次特殊的晚会，商店职员和银行出纳员也有与我的舞友一样的鼻子。“Someday" and "one of these days" are losing their grip on my vocabulary. Ifit's worth seeing or hearmg or doing, I want to see and hear and do it now. I'm not sure what my sister would have done, had she known that she wouldn't be here for the tomorrow we all take for granted. I think she would have called family members and a few close friends.She might have called a few formerfriendto apologize and mend fencesfor past squabbles. I like to think she would have gone out for a Chinese dinner, her favorite food. I'm guessing I'll never I now。“总有一天”和“某一天”对我已失去了意义。如果某件事值得去看、去听、去做，我会立刻去实行。我不知道，如果我妹妹得知她将不会拥有我们都认为理所当然的明天时，她会去做什么。或许她会给家人和一些亲密的朋友打电话，或许她会为以前发生的口角给一些曾经的朋友打电话来道歉或弥补彼此的关系。我还想她出去吃她最爱的中餐。然而这都只是我的猜想，我永远不会知道她会做什么。It's those liffle things left undone that would make me angry if I knew that my hours were limited. Angry because I put off seeing good friends whom I was going to get in touch with someday. Angry because I hadn't written certain letters that I intended to write one of these days.Angry and sorry that I didn't tell my husband and daughter often enough how much I truly love them.当我知道自己时间紧张却有一些事情没有完成时，我会愤怒不已。为推迟拜访“总有一天”我会联络的朋友而恼火，为没有写下“某一天”我终究会写的信而生气，为没有足够多地告诉我的丈夫和女儿我是多么爱他们而感到后悔与遗憾。I'm trying very hard not to put off, hold back, or save anything that would add laughter and luster to our lives.我尽了最大努力避免推迟、延误或保留那些能给我们的生活带来欢笑与光彩的事情。And every moming when I open my eyes, I tell myself that it is special. Every day, every minute, every breath truly is ... a gift from God.每天早晨睁开眼睛，我都告诉我自己这是特殊的一天。每一天、每一分钟、每一口呼吸……其实都是上帝给我们的恩赐。