美国家长信奉的40条教子法则,与中国家长太不同了!(上)

美国家长信奉的40条教子法则,与中国家长太不同了!(上)

美国在教育子女上相对比较宽松,所以他们的教子方法有很多种。

虽然生活习惯,文化习俗各国国情各有不同,不过孩子的天性总是大致相同的,所以在子女教育上也有着相通的地方。

今天介绍的是美国家长在教育子女中信奉的40条原则,如果在生活中遵循这些法则,相信各位父母在子女教育上可以避免走不少弯路。

1、改变孩子,要从改变父母开始。父母改变,孩子才能改变。

Changing a child need to start from changing parents. If parents change, the child can change.

2、父母最需要意识到的就是,无论自己所受的教育,还是自己的言行都存在诸多问题,首先要一点一滴挤掉自己身上的毒素,才能“更配”为人父母。

Parents need to realize that, regardless of his education, or his own words and deeds has many problems, the first thing is to crowd out her body toxin bit by bit,so as to be real parents.

3、在一个温和、充满善意的家庭中成长起来的孩子,性格不会出现大问题。孩子性格与品行出问题,责任基本出在父母身上。

A child who grows up in a gentle, well-intentioned family will not have big problems on characters.

If children have problems on their characters and conducts, the responsibility is basically on their parents.

4、每一个父母都应该用一生的力量说出“我相信你,孩子!”

Every parent should use the power of a lifetime to say "I trust you, my child!"

5、任何教育的进步都是极其艰难和缓慢的,与其期待国家的教育变革,不如期待学校教育的改善;与其期待学校教育的改善,不如从家庭教育的改进做起。孩子的未来不是掌握在学校,而是掌握在父母手中。

The progress of any education is extremely difficult and slow. Instead of expecting the education change of the country, we should expect the improvement of education at school.

Instead of looking forward to the improvement of education, we should start from the improvement of family education. The future of children is not at school, but in their parents' hands.

6、无论你到哪里谋生,无论你生活多艰辛,请一定带上你的孩子。孩子不在你身边,孩子就在更多的危险之中。

No matter where you make a living, no matter how hard your life is, bring your children. Children are at risk when they are not with you.

7、下班的路,是回家的路。花更多的时间和孩子在一起比什么都重要。人生的很多麻烦都是因为没有生活在自己家里造成的。

The way back is the way home. Spending more time with your children is more important than anything else. Troubles in life are usually caused by not living at your own home.

8、全家人一起吃晚餐,有助于小孩获得较好营养,较高学业成绩、较不会抽烟、喝酒、吸毒、打架、提早性行为。即使父母双方只有一人能赶上晚餐也会有上述效果。孩子的未来,往往在餐桌上和客厅里就已经决定了。

Family has dinner together, which helps children get better nutrition, higher academic performance, less smoking, drinking, druging, fighting and early sex.

Even if only one parent could catch the dinner, it also works. Children's future, uaually has been decided in the dining room and the living room.

9、切勿在就餐时训斥孩子,餐桌是共享食物,交流思想与见闻的佳所。融融的亲情也有助于孩子学会感恩和餐桌礼仪。

Don't scold the child during the meal. The table is a good place to share food, exchange ideas and knowledge.

Family affection also helps children to learn thanksgiving and table manners.

10、切勿在孩子临睡时进行教育,时常怀着恐惧、带着泪水入眠的孩子,生命会变得十分晦暗。

Do not to educate when your child is sleeping. when your child is always sleeping with fear and tears, his or her life will be very dull.

11、快乐的孩子,都有伙伴,孤独的孩子,性情容易变得古怪。鼓励孩子与同伴交往,鼓励孩子参加户外运动,是父母送给孩子最好的礼物。

Happy child has companions, lonely child is easy to be eccentric.

Encouraging them to socialize with peers and participate in outdoor sports is the best gift that parents can give to their children.

12、你每天以什么样的方式对待孩子,慢慢的,你便会有一张什么样的脸,是孩子塑造了我们的面貌。

How you treat your child everyday, will shape your face slowly.

13、和孩子交谈,六岁之前适宜面对面,六岁之后要逐渐改为肩并肩。因为六岁之前的孩子在意你对他的关注,而青少年则不希望你“盯着他”,而是能够以朋友的方式和他交谈,这样他更容易打开心房。

Talk to your child face to face before age 6, and gradually change to shoulder to shoulder after age 6.

Because a child before age 6 cares about your attention to him, and teenagers don't want you to "stare at him", he prefers to talk to you in a friend's way, so he can open his heart more easily.

14、父母发现自己误解了孩子或教育方式不当,应该诚恳地向孩子道歉。

Parents should sincerely apologize to their children when they find themselves misreading their children.

15、有教养的父母,不一定就能培养出有教养的孩子,但可以肯定的是,父母缺乏教养,孩子必倒霉。

A well-bred parent may not nurture a well-bred child, but it is certain that the child will suffer from a lack of parenting.

16、要正确对待孩子对老师的评价,不在孩子面前议论老师或与老师争吵。

Treat your child's evaluation of teachers correctly, do not discuss or argue with the teacher in front of the child.

17、不要当着孩子的面,与老师或其他家长议论孩子的优缺点。

Don't discuss your child's strengths and weaknesses with your teacher or other parents in front of your child.

18、孩子在学校遭受不公正、不人道的待遇,父母应主动与学校沟通、替孩子申诉,但同时也须意识到,如果这样沟通、申诉毫无效果,你就需要设法为孩子换一所学校。

When children suffer from injustice or inhumane treatment at school, parents should take the initiative to communicate with school.

But at the same time, it must be realized that if the communication have no effect, you need to try to change a school for your child.

19、即使孩子的学业成绩欠佳,父母也应全力鼓励孩子保持学习的热情,同时应该有勇气放低对孩子的期望值,因为最终决定孩子未来的并不是他的学习成绩,而是继续学习的信念。

Even if the child has poor academic performance, parents should also encourage them to keep learning, put lower expectations, because which ultimately determine the future of the child is not his grades, but belief to keep learning.

20、孩子成绩欠佳时,最重要的是父母不要变得沮丧、狂躁、失去信心,孩子即使输掉学业,他也不一定会输掉人生。如果父母丧失希望,孩子的人生一定也输掉了。

When a child gets poor grades, the most important thing is that his parents don't get frustrated, manic, or lose confidence. Even if a child loses his school education, it doesn't means he lose his life.

If the parents lose hope, the child's life will be lost.