美国家长信奉的40条教子法则,与中国家长太不同了!(下)

美国家长信奉的40条教子法则,与中国家长太不同了!(下)

21、把孩子交给祖父母抚养的麻烦在于,祖父母对孙子的喜爱往往超过了对自己儿子的喜爱,同时祖父母总是倾向于认为自己比孙子的父母更聪明更有经验,只有他们才能够使孩子有一个更好的未来。

Leaving your kids with grandparents have some troubles.

They will love their grandchildren more than their own son, also they tend to think they have more experiences than their children, and they can make children have a better future.

22、三代同堂的家庭一旦为养育孩子出现分歧甚至争执,几乎没有调节与改善的可能,因为“真理往往掌握在脾气最坏的人手里”。

Families of three generations have little or no chance of improvement once they quarrelled about raising their children, because the truth is often in the hands of the worst tempered.

23、解决家庭中养育第三代人权力的争夺,最好的办法是分开居住,由父母独立养育自己的孩子。最糟糕的情形也莫过于此,你可能暂时伤了自己父母的心,但你因此可以尽到更多对孩子的责任。

The best way to settle the struggle for nurturing third-generation in the family is to live separately from the parents, and raise their own children by themselves.

The worst case is that you may temporarily hurt your parents' heart, but you can perform your duty well.

24、为贪图生活的轻松、舒适而将孩子交给祖父母或保姆的家长,其实是在与未来做一场豪赌。

Parents who give their children to grandparents or nannies for the comfort of life are actually making a big bet with children's future.

25、在中国有60%的父母为孩子的未来极度忧虑,但其中不到1%的父母是为孩子的睡眠不足忧虑。很多儿童的未来其实是输在睡眠严重不足上。一个孩子只要睡得好,看世界看自己的方式都不一样。

In China, 60 percent of parents are extremely worried about their children's future, but less than 1 percent of parents are worried about their children's sleeping.

Actually the future of children will lose because of lack of sleep. A child who sleeps well will see the world differently.

26、如果孩子情绪狂躁,先检查一下他的睡眠。如果家庭中冲突不断,先检查一下全家人的睡眠。

If your child is feeling restless, check his sleep. If your family is in conflict, check your family's sleep.

27、只要出自真诚,对孩子的表扬与鼓励越多越好。当孩子往前走,他回头时最渴望看得到的是鼓励的眼睛。

As long as it comes from sincerity, it's better to give more praise and encouragement to your child.

When the child move forward, he will look back with the most eager eyes for encouragement.

28、在母爱中,曾经为一体的两个人被分开了。母亲不仅需要容忍,她还必须希望和支持孩子同她分离。母亲以爱和具体的帮助,使孩子顺利与自己分离。

In mother's love, two people who once were one are separated. Mother not only needs to be tolerant, she must also hope and support her child to be separated from her.

With love and concrete help, the mother separated the child from herself.

29、勤未必能补拙,扬长远胜于避短。

Diligence may not be able to fill in, far better than others.

30、负担过重,必然导致肤浅。负担过重,必然导致后续学习时的“学业枯竭”,也就是早期学习投入过度,后续学习必然失去成长的空间。

Overburden leads to superficiality, and inevitably leads to the "academic exhaustion" in the follow study, which means early learning investment is excessive, follow study may lose the space of growth.

31、任何身体或心理的疾病,如果可以追溯到童年时期,往往都是最难治愈和最严重的。

Any physical or mental illness is often the hardest to cure, if it can be traced back to childhood.

32、在严酷的应试教育背景下,培养孩子适当的对分数的钝感力,有助于他更好的成长。

In the harsh test of education, it is helpful for children to grow up better by training them to be insensitive to grades.

33、在以分数为评价标尺的学校生活中,成绩落后、思维迟缓的孩子很难不受到伤害,培养孩子适当的对批评与伤害的钝感力,对他的成长更有助益。

If a child is falling behind, he will be hurt easily.So it is helpful for them to grow up better by training them to be insensitive to criticism and damage.

34、尊重孩子的兴趣,鼓励孩子自己去尝试,如果尝试失败了,继续鼓励孩子尝试别的,直到找到他喜欢的为止。

Respect their interests, encourage them to try. If the attempt fails, continue to encourage them to try something else until he finds what he love to do.

35、每一个人的成长都需要必要的条件,一个孩子的天份越高对成长所需要的条件也越为苛刻,所以,“莫扎特如果出生在一个农民家庭,很可能就会成为一种灾难。”

Every people all need necessary conditions for their growth. Talented children will need higher conditions, so "if Mozart was born in a peasant family, it is likely to become a disaster."

36、每一个人的成长都需要必要的条件,一个孩子若有智力或健康方面的重大局限,他对成长所需要的条件也就更为苛刻,为人父母就要倾其全力给予孩子关爱与帮助,孩子任何进步都具有石破天惊的意义。

Every people all need necessary conditions for their growth. A child who have intelligence or health limitations will need higher conditions.

Parents should try their best to give help. Any progress of the child means a lot."

37、一个孩子若是性格内向、羞涩,就让他内向、羞涩好了,什么时候想改变是他自己的事情,你根本不应该勉强他。

If a child is introverted and shy, let him be introverted and shy. What time to change themselves is his own business, you should not force him.

38、教育孩子一定要有“各是各”的意识,就是要分清楚每件事情原因和责任之所在,既不能“数罪并罚”,更不能让孩子承担他不能承担的责任。

Educating child must have seperated consciousness, that is to say, separating the reason and responsibility of every thing.

Do not combine punishment for several crimes, Do not let the child wo take responsibilities that he can't bear.

39、当众责骂和惩罚孩子,几乎就是一种可怕的虐杀。

Scolding and punishing children in public is almost a terrible torture.

40、即使你认为非常有必要批评或惩罚孩子,也需要先克制一下,克制可以避免犯错,变得从容、理智,这都有助于你在教育孩子上做到“最不坏”。

Even if you think it's necessary to criticize or punish your child, you need to restraint yourself.

Being calm and avoiding making mistakes will help you.